Love Part 7: Distance

There are many tests of love but distance is one of the greatest ones and sadly destroys many loves.  Distance can be anything from being in another country, another state, or just not seeing enough of each other.  But if you truly love someone and have them in your heart, where they belong to be, the distance between you two are just meaningless numbers.  Missing someone is ok, in fact its encouraged, but the one thing you can not do, i repeat can not do, is put your life on hold for someone to return,  I'm not saying go out and date, I'm saying go out and live life, with that person you miss in your mind and your heart, but without them weighing you down.

It's easy to focus on the bad when someone is gone, the cold bed, the missed hugs, the constant warmth that used to be there before distance put you apart, but all that does is make you sad, and possibly depressed if you let it get the best of you.  The trick is to remember all the things that made you fall in love with that person who is not there at the moment, and plan to recreate them the next time you see them.  Kiss them like it was your first kiss, hug a little bit longer, plan a surprise that they won't see coming, just basically wow them off their feet showing them yes you missed them, but you didn't dwell on it and their absence didn't ruin your life.

Also a trick to do before they leave is to get mementos of your love and always keep them with you.  Whether it be a pillow or shirt that smells like the one you love, possibly a mixtape (showing my age) or playlist of songs you choose together that remind you of three things, you, them, and your love together.  And add that to both of your music devices.  So if you get a chance you can each play a song together at the same time and feel like you are within the same moment, without you two actually being next to each other.  Music has the ability to bridge distance, and also has a way to bond with ones heart, and if you are both listening to it at the same time you in theory built a bridge to each others hearts.

Distance can kill a relationship if you let it.  If you let your heart wander due to wanting love from missing it so long, you will not feel that true of love ever again.  In fact you will be training your heart to love until love is no longer there, and then move on.  Which may be needed, but in most cases it is not.  Our stories have been written already and we are just living it.  I truly believe this.  Everything in my life has happened for a reason, and the distance issue I have felt has made me a stronger, emotional, and self inspiring person.  Without distance there would be no blog, and my mind would be bored and possibly dumber.  Every love deserves to be tested, in fact it must to see how strong it is.  And distance is the greatest test, and if love is true on both ends, in each others hearts, than there is no distance between you two that will destroy the love you have for each other.