I feel I need to redeem myself after last nights post about beauty and attempt to do a manly one. So I decided to do a poem about strength and I hope you enjoy it. But on a side note I love last nights post and am truly humbled on how much everyone loved it :)
We only get stronger by doing things over and over.
Challenging ourselves with more and more weight in our lives.
Showing no matter how strong we are now there is always the ability to become stronger.
Stronger in the body.
Stronger in the soul.
Stronger in the heart.
My arms are strong because of helping others up when they fall down.
My shoulders are strong because of putting my world on top of it, and inviting others to do the same.
My back is strong from helping carrying others when they feel they have no feet to stand on.
My legs are strong from kicking in doors, because I'm tired of waiting for them to open.
My body is strong because of me!
Enduring life has made me strong.
Being a father.
Being a husband.
Being a friend.
Trying everyday to add more weight and being a better version each day.
All right first before I give up a man card for this blog just a fair warning. There will be no makeup tips, tutorials, hair teasing videos, or nail painting discussed in this blog, except for right there. This blog will be all about inner and personal beauty and my true definition of beautiful and what someone has to be to clarify as beautiful in my eyes. So if you're looking for tips on how to be superficial beautiful look elsewhere, in fact if you find any send them my way because I need all the help I can get..... :)
Society now has clouded and poisoned our minds with what should declare beautiful, and us as people have sadly embraced it. We all want idolize celebrities and strive to look like them, body, clothe, and makeup wise. But here's the sad truth about that, that look they are pulling off is their own, and not yours. You can slap lipstick on, get your hair done, and throw on a dress but all that doesn't hide the true image of your soul. A woman to me is just pretty if she has the look that we are programmed to like, and only becomes beautiful once I get to know the kind of person she is.
To go off of more the celebrity route women and men both have their list of people they find attractive. For women it might go like Channing Tatum, Reggie Bush, Ryan Reynolds, etc... and for some guys it might go like Taylor Swift, Anne Hathaway, Megan Fox etc. And we as people try so hard to look like the guys/girls that the opposite sex wants, but fail to realize that we will never look like that. I've worked my @$$ off for the last few years to gain a six pack, and do I have one, no. A reason might be because my genes won't let me, I like coffee and Dutch Bros way to much, or maybe its because I don't need them. We can never become someone else no matter how had try. Instead we should get in touch with our soul, and become the most beautiful version of ourselves, and if that's not good enough for some, truth is they are not worth it.
The one thing that stays with me when I meet someone is their personality. Not their hair color, their made up face, their revealing shirt, the inner beauty stays with me. And us as a society should adopt that philosophy to because we all need more truly beautiful people in the world, and the only way to help that along is by helping others realize they are beautiful too. I know it sounds corny but the words "You are beautiful" have a very profound effect on people and most people will smile when they year those three words. But some might fight it and doubt you, if that happens you need to tell them why they are beautiful. If you are wondering right now why you are beautiful ask me and I will tell you.
I kept this short because to me being beautiful is as simple as being yourself. The more people realize that, the more beautiful people there will be in this world!
All right before this blog gets read I first must establish some ground rules, call it Blog Club if you will. First rule of Blog Club is you don't talk about Blog Club, actually do, because I like getting more readers :). Second rule of Blog Club is before you read this post you must promise me to not immediately message me asking me if I'm ok. Because I'm ok, just need to get a few things off of my chest. And the third rule of Blog Club is.....
A lot of us wear masks, and some are so good at it people don't believe it's a mask we are wearing. It might be a permanent smile, extremely high self esteem, or crying in attempt for attention that we crave. I know people that wear all those masks, but its only for the public to see. If you wanna see someone for who they truly are you must catch them off guard and look at them when they don't know you are. I'm not saying hide in the bushes of their home, I'm just saying glance at them when they think they are alone. Chances are you will see them in their natural state, a dormant state where they can't control the mask anymore. They might just be staring off into space but in all actuality they are gaining the inner strength to go back out there and be the person that others need them to be, even it means lying to themselves and others telling them they are just fine.
One of the many reasons I call myself a superhero is not because I can lift a car over my head( I can't), but it is because I've chosen to pick up a cape and a mask and put them both on. My role is to help others with their problems in life and fly off into the sunset to forget about mine. Which is fine because if I incorporate my time with others issues, it is much easier to ignore my own, I think that is why people become therapists to help them remember that there are other people out there who need help, so it will be ok if I don't help myself out. (Once again I want to remind you of the rules of Blog Club because if you ask me if I'm ok I will tell you I am and that will be it.) Everyone needs saving but who saves the heroes of the world. If heroes are saving other heroes then technically aren't doing their job. They're supposed to be helping the helpless, not saving the helpers.
Sometimes circumstances build on each other way to much to put the mask on, and those days are the worst. The feeling is you are numb to the world, can't feel sadness or even joy. You are just numb. Tears don't form, smiles are non-existent, day is just blah, just picture a mask with eyes but no mouth to show expression. It theses days most of all that we must be left alone , because the mask wearers are in a fragile state of mind, because they are not guarded by their usual facial shield of smiles, unicorns, and sunshine. This is also a sign that the mask has been on for way too long, and should be put away at all costs. Constantly lying to yourself and others about how you feel is not only detrimental to yourself, but also others and your relationships with them. I'm not saying throw away the mask completely because we all have days we need to hide ourselves from others, I'm saying keep it in your back pocket or shirt pocket at all times. Because who knows when you will only need it for a little bit.
First things first, if I blogged last night or even this morning I would of been breaking my no blogging when angry rule, so I'm glad I held off on it. Because the longer I let this idea simmer in my head it actually came into the shape you are about to read about. And also there will be another blog on Valentines Day about love letters, because well it's Valentine's Day or VD for short and I'm a romantic :). So without further ado, I give you my analysis on balance and how it affects our lives!
The secret to life is very simple, it's balance. Life is full of balance either way the dark and the light side, and when either side gets overloaded it distorts reality and we see things as either everything is against or us, or the world is too fricking full of sunshine and unicorns that this can't all possibly be true. I know because I've had a ton of both days. This weekend was hell for me, actually it wasn't just the weekend, but complaining about it won't do jack. Every where I looked I saw black and no white in sight, and when that happens you must make a a decision amongst yourself, either give in the darkness, or since you can't find out light YOU must shine the light and offset the balance. That's what I realized this afternoon, I was determined that this weekend was going to suck because that's how my week was mostly going in my eyes, so why would anything change. So life decided to make my prediction come true and throw everything my way, and honestly I came very close to just throwing in the towel and just letting it all out, But then I decided to show life the middle finger so to speak, smiled, and decided to be the light that was missing.
Everyone asks do you think your glass is half empty or half full, my answer from now on will be simple, who the HELL drank my water in the first place, and did they get their germs on my glass. Very simply put its your glass of water, not anyone elses, and we all do our own thing with our glasses. Me I like to stick a straw in it sometimes and blow bubbles and make a fun mess of things, or other times just pick up the glass and throw it hard against the wall and see if it will break. And if it breaks I clean up the mess, and grab my plastic Hulk slurpee cup and refill the water and start all over. In a nutshell you decide in your life what to do, and you, and only you have the ability to change it, but only if you truly want to. Saying you want to lose weight, write a book, go to the gym, run a marathon, are greats things to say, but saying them won't make them come true. You must do them to make them come true. And I'll tell you what every little step you make towards that goal your reaching for get's easier and easier. I was watching myself in the mirror at the gym and I was just looking at myself realizing I had no idea how much I've changed throughout the years. The reason for the change is very simple, I took my water and I drank from it without anyone asking me if it was half empty or etc, and if it was empty I got up and refilled it myself, and if others were thirsty I would get them their own cup and encourage them to take a sip, and take control of their destiny.
When life seems out of balance its because you have given it a chance to become that way, whether you know it or not. The balance of your life should only rely on one person, and that one person is you. Sure we may get wobbly here and there, we might fall down, and when those events occur that's where friends and family come into play to give your a helping hand. Tell you go get back up, lean more to the right or left, and just breathe. You should never rely on someone to keep your own balance, because that same person who you're relying on has to keep their own balance. People asked me if I went insane today at work and for one reason I went from mopey, depressed, down right grumpy, to borderline psychotic sarcastic happiness in a flip of the switch. You can be sad that you cut your tip of the thumb off, dug through trash for no reason, printers not working, dough running out, but being sad and angry about it doesn't do anything, in fact the only thing it does it make it easier to keep loading up on you and slowly, slowly push all that weight down on you, and hurt you really bad. To change the balance all you do is very simple, be the light where there is only darkness it seems, grab your glass of water (maybe throw it against the wall a few times), and swing the balance of your life in the right direction. The only person who controls your own inner pendulum is you so swing away, and carry on, because I promise life will get better if you believe it will.
